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Friday, January 2, 2009

New York Gay “Marriage” Debate: Ruben Diaz Under Pressure

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One of the next battleground states for protecting traditional marriage is New York. Democrat senator Ruben Diaz Sr. has promised he will not vote for a senate leader who supports a gay marriage bill reaching the senate floor (New York Times Article). He is now under intense pressure with Democrat organizations.

Send Reben Diaz an email to express your support:

diaz@senate.state.ny.us

The article below claims Diaz is“showing strain under pressure.” Kingfisher disagrees. From Diaz’ statements it’s clear he continues to stand for what he believes the Democrat party should care about—defending the traditional family. It seems traditional marriage would be important to all politicians since multiple studies show children do better in the in-tact, traditional married family. Diaz is correct in his stand.

Anti-Gay NY Pol Showing Strain Under Pressure

by Kilian Melloy, The Edge Contributor

Political groups, GLBT equality organizations, and unions have all come forward to issue a simple plea to New York state Sen. Rubén Díaz Sr. to prove himself a Democrat in more than name.

The Working Families Party, among other groups, has been active in attempting to bring pressure on to Díaz and fellow member of the so-called "Gang of Three," Democratic state Senator-elect Pedro Espada, Jr., by taking out a newspaper ad in several weekly Bronx publications.

The ad, which was reproduced in the Dec. 29 edition of the New York Daily News, reads, "Dear Senator Diaz and Senator-elect Espada: for decades our community has suffered under the failed leadership of the Republicans in Albany.

"People across New York voted to change that in November by electing a Democrat/Working Families majority in the State Senate for the first time in 43 years."

Continued the ad, "Now we can finally look forward to a better education for our children, more health care, affordable housing, and a real focus on all the issues that matter to working families.

"But only if you join the Democratic majority we voted for."

The Working Families party and other groups have circulated petitions urging Díaz to join with other state Democrats.

At issue is the question of whether fellow Democrat Malcolm Smith will be confirmed as Majority Leader of the New York state Senate. Díaz, Espada, and the third member of the so-called "Gang of Three," state Sen. Karl Kruger, another Democrat, have resisted Smith’s confirmation to the post due to Smith’s pro-marriage equality stance.

The New York state Assembly has already approved a bill that would allow gay and lesbian families in New York the right to marry. That bill, under outgoing Senate Majority Speaker Joseph Bruno, a Republican, was never allowed to come to a vote in the Senate.
The New York Daily News reported in November that Díaz, who is also an evangelical pastor, had attempted to convince Smith to sign a document promising not to allow the issue of marriage equality to come up for a vote.

But the turmoil surrounding Smith’s confirmation as the new Senate Majority Leader has had broader effects than the question of whether all families in New York will have equal access to legal recognition. Constituents see the flap as threatening the Democratic agenda overall.

In response to the petitions and the ads, Díaz’s people sent out a press release in which Díaz declared, "I am still a Democrat.
"And I will always be a Democrat."

New York Magazine reported in a Dec. 30 article that Díaz’s Dec. 29 release did address the evangelical pastor’s opposition to marriage rights for gay and lesbian families, but also decried budget cuts announced by Gov. David Paterson’s office and the ready availability of abortion services.

In a statement from earlier this month, Díaz praised President-elect Barack Obama for making the Democratic party more inclusive for Democrats who are more religiously and socially conservative.
Obama had drawn criticism from other quarters for inviting mega-church pastor and marriage equality opponent Rick Warren to deliver the invocation at the Presidential Inauguration.

Read Díaz’s statement, "Obama has sent a message to the world that ’Yes We Can’ have a Democratic Party where everyone should be included."

Added Díaz, "It has been the belief that the Democratic Party is owned exclusively by certain groups, and if you do not believe in nor follow the ideology of these groups and their agendas, then you will be a registered outcast."

Díaz went on, "To some people, if you oppose homosexual marriage and abortion, you are not a Democrat and you are certainly not be invited to deliver an inaugural invocation."

Thursday, January 1, 2009

The Pro-Gay Rights Mind

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An excellent submission from
Euripides:Self-Evident Truths

Having participated in several "discussions" of news stories about California's Proposition 8 and the subsequent fallout, I've cataloged many of the ideas behind the gay rights responses. (I use the quote marks on "discussions" because the usual responses mostly contain religion bashers and gay bashers who call each other names.) In this article, I'll list the gay marriage idea, then direct quotes from some of the folks commenting on the bulletin boards, and then explain the idea and offer my response to it. I've copied and pasted the bulletin board quotes directly from the discussion pages following news stories written by the AP and by the LA Times, including original spelling and language.

Idea 1: Gay marriage is a civil right.

"Proposition 8... is itself unconstitutional because it deprives a minority group of a fundamental right."

"Some of you ding dongs really need to take some time and actually read the Consitution before commenting on things you obviously know nothing about."


Commentary:
There are two classes of rights, often confused with each other: the unalienable rights listed in the Declaration of Independence and the civil rights granted by the US and state constitutions. As the Declaration of Independence states, the unalienable rights are endowed by our Creator and include life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. (I find it interesting that every discussion I've read online conveniently ignores that the rights in the Declaration of Independence are attributed to deity.) Federal civil rights are enumerated in the first ten amendments of the US Constitution (known as The Bill of Rights) and within several other amendments. These rights include things like free expression of religion, the right to carry guns, and the right to a fair trial.

In May of 2008, the California Supreme Court threw out the same sex marriage law of 2000 stating that it violated, not the civil rights of gays, but the "fundamental right to marry." What this did, upsetting a good selection of California citizens, was to equate marriage with the unalienable rights listed in the Declaration of Independence. In essence, a few judges in California created a brand new fundamental right. Those opposed to gay marriage rallied and got a definition of marriage ballot initiative to amend the state constitution.

Others argue that marriage is a civil right. The civil right most applicable to the idea of gay marriage is found in the 14th amendment. Within the amendment: "No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws."

This is the crux of the matter. Federal court decisions have found in the past that these civil rights weren't extended to Blacks or to women and laws, such as Jim Crow laws, have been declared unconstitutional. The question with gays becomes the question of whether or not that particular group is a protected class, one that needs equal protection under the US Constitution. The courts up to this point have basically said yes, gays as a class are protected. As an example, in a controversial majority opinion, the US Supreme Court ruled in 2003 that a Texas sodomy law was unconstitutional stating that "gays are entitled to respect for their private lives."

The question now is whether or not gays have a civil right to marriage. The answer to this question is not yet settled. The questions are: Is marriage a civil right? Is it a fundamental right (of the pursuit of happiness)? Can states define marriage (as 30 out of 50 have) as only between a man and a woman?

Idea 2: Rights are established by the Constitution and the courts, not by the will of the people.


"[Euripedes], you are complete moron.

1. The Constitution is the SUPREME LAW OF THE LAND.
2. The PEOPLE CANNOT change the Constitution."

Commentary: I found this comment funny, especially since it was directed at me personally. This person said this after I had written that California's Attorney General, Jerry Brown, had overstepped his authority by filing an opinion to the California Supreme Court to get rid of Proposition 8.

The question is valid, however. Can the people change the Constitution and create or change civil liberties? The answer, of course, is yes. In the US Constitution, the 13th amendment, ratified in 1865, abolished slavery. In 1919, the 18th amendment was ratified that disallowed the manufacture and transportation of alcohol (known as Prohibition). Another amendment repealed the 18th. With reference to marriage in California, the state constitution limits marriage to 18 year-olds, to people of sound mind, and prohibits marriage between more than one man and woman. (Interestingly, in the California state constitution, marriage is implicit between a man and a woman.)

All of these changes to the two constitutions were validated by vote, not by the courts. So, by extension, Proposition 8 is a valid means of creating or limiting a civil right. The question with the California Supreme Court remains, however, whether the court will accept or reject Proposition 8 as an expression of civil rights, or as an expression of some made up, fundamental right to marriage.

Idea 3: Those opposed to gay marriage are a bunch of religious nuts.

"Don't HETEROSEXUAL bible-thumpers have anything better to do than to worry about gay marriage? Surely there are more serious problems to focus on."

"Only people who pray to the imaginary man in the sky are against homosexuality. Religious texts are the ONLY REASON to be against homosexuality. What other reason would lead you to conclude that it's bad, except that it says so in the Bible? It surely isn't logic. LOGIC and RELIGION are mutually exclusive."

"well my god loves every body and says that if two people love each other and want ot commit themselves to each other to love and support each other then that's all good with my god. You see my God is about love and acceptance and doing unto others as you would have them do unto you. My God believes that all the creatures God created have the right to live their lives in peace and love even if you don't think you could love the person they do."

"OF COURSE I have a grudge against religion, because all religions are CULTS, demanding that you follow their inflexible rules instead of thinking for yourself."

Commentary: These types of comments are the most common on bulletin board threads having to do with gay marriage. On one such thread, I counted comments against religion outweighed pro-religion comments about seven to one.

There are several things going on here. One is the obvious connection with evangelical atheism. These are people who live with the haunting fear that someone, somewhere may actually believe in God. They reject any biblical reference against homosexual sex outright, rejecting the validity of the Bible as a moral guide. They view Christianity, and by extension, Judaism as the greatest evil in the world. Many feel that world history would somehow have been less violent without Christianity in it.

There are those who profess a belief in God, but have to change the Christian God into something else, in order to fit in with their particular world view. Many of these adopt a God made in the image of equality and fairness. Many accept Buddhism or other religions that coincide more closely with their own views of morality.

An underlying thread of the anti-religionists is the idea of separation of church and state. I do not have the time and space today to comment in depth on this topic. The problem arises, however, with the basic ideals behind the separation of church and state. Many people in the US view this as meaning that religion has no part in our secular government. Others, like me, view this as a problem with government interfering with the establishment of religion or interfering with its free exercise. Most of those who argue in favor of the separation of church and state have a limited view of the free exercise clause. The free exercise of religion, however, is a civil liberty granted in the 1st amendment of the US Constitution. Religious people have every civil right to express their views in this country.

Religious people do indeed express dislike of gay sex and the idea of gay marriage. Religious values (unless redefined) threaten the gay community, so the gay community turns against religion as an "enemy of civil rights."

Idea 4: Gay rights and gay marriage is a matter of tolerance and love.

"I firmly believe it goes both ways and in a civil society, tolerance of ALL people is the key ingredient... without it, there is nothing but anarchy and unjust behavior. It is not a question of whether we "want" to tolerate ignorance and low class behavior, it is just something we need to do to live our lives without hate and bitterness, just as we tolerate the bad driver, or the dog barking next door, or the rude shopper next to us in the store, etc... unfortunately, the ignorant must also have a place in society."

"I would have no tollerance for someone trying to deny me my due rights either! I call that being an American."

Commentary: As I've written before, intolerance is a double-edged sword. I think most will agree that tolerance is a moral value that should be embraced by society. The problem lies not with the ideal of tolerance, but with the double standard of intolerance expressed by the gay community. I've commented in a previous post about the intolerance of the gay rights activists: Go Away So We Can Be Inclusive.
The gay rights activists view the California vote for Proposition 8 as an act of intolerance. Much of the uproar after the vote was directed against religion, another act of intolerance.

James Madison, one of the founders of the US Constitution and one of those who wrote the Federalist Papers, notes that there are two ways of dealing with factions (such as gay rights activists and religious people). One way to deal with factions was to remove them, making all the people in a society think the same way. Since this is antithetical to democracy, Madison rejected the idea out of hand. We see, however, more and more people in the US arguing in favor of homogenizing everyone to one, common ideal. We call this homogenization "political correctness" and see examples of its use and abuse every day. (See my own article Holidays Are Against My Religion where I poke fun at atheists and at political correctness.)

Madison's solution, by the way, was to argue in favor of the Republic - the system of government that we now have - to balance out the factions within society. Factions need to be controlled, not done away with. He understood that intolerance was a simple fact of the splits within society itself. So the question of gay marriage doesn't really hinge on the concept of tolerance, rather it hinges on whether gay marriage can prevail within the political system we have.

Idea 5: Gay marriage is a private matter and is none of your business.

"It is none of anyones business what I do in my bed."


Commentary: This is another, very common thread within the gay marriage discussion. While gay sex may be a private matter, marriage, including the idea of gay marriage is a public matter. Many who argue in favor of gay marriage don't seem to be able to differentiate between the private and the public concerns. I've talked about private and public concerns in my article Are Families Measured in Family Units?

As an additional comment, the California state constitution clearly shows the public aspect of marriage. It states "Marriage is a personal relation arising out of a civil contract between a man and a woman, to which the consent of the parties capable of making that contract is necessary. Consent alone does not constitute marriage. Consent must be followed by the issuance of a license and solemnization as authorized by this division..." (FAMILY.CODE Section 300). The civil contract makes the difference. Marriage isn't simply the consent of adults in the privacy of their own bed.

Conclusions: I've found these arguments to be the bulk of those expressed by gay rights activists and by those who post on the news bulletin boards. I've excluded arguments about gays themselves (for example, whether or not being gay is a choice). I've excluded the gays raising children arguments.

I've found, in writing and responding to the pro-gay crowd on these bulletin boards, that they respond to my reason and arguments with hatred and intolerance. I've been called everything from an idiot to [unprintable], all for expressing my views against the idea of gay marriage. I also find it interesting that these folks universally condemn me as a religious bigot, even though I have never written from a religious viewpoint any argument against gay marriage.

As Ghandi put it: "Anger and intolerance are the twin enemies of correct understanding."

Wednesday, December 31, 2008

NJ rules against church group in gay rights case

Ocean Grove Camp Meeting Association Boardwalk Pavilion

The Ocean Grove Camp Meeting Association was one of the cases used by the Prop 8 Coalition to show that religious freedoms are threatened by state recognition of same-gender “marriages.”

The New Jersey case involves the performance of a civil union. The case isn’t over, and it continues to illustrate how religious freedoms will be limited.

NJ rules against church group in gay rights case

By GEOFF MULVIHILL, Associated Press Writer

MOUNT LAUREL, N.J. —  A church group that owns beachfront property discriminated against a lesbian couple by not allowing them to rent the locale for their civil union ceremony, a New Jersey department ruled Monday in a case that has become a flash point in the nation's gay rights battle.

The New Jersey Division on Civil Rights said its investigation found that the refusal of the Ocean Grove Camp Meeting Association to rent the oceanfront spot to the couple for their same-sex union in March 2007 violated the public accommodation provisions of the state's Law Against Discrimination.

While the ruling is decisively in favor of the couple, Harriet Bernstein and Luisa Paster, it does not end the case. An administrative law judge still must decide on a remedy for the parties.

"What this case has always been about from my clients' perspective has been equality," said Larry Lustberg, the lawyer for the couple. He said they will seek an order that requires the pavilion to be "open to all on an equal basis."

Brian Raum, a lawyer for the Alliance Defense Fund, a Scottsdale, Ariz.-based group that represents the Methodist organization, Camp Meeting Association, said his clients would keep pushing back against being forced to allow civil unions on the property.

"Our position is the same," he said. "A Christian organization has a constitutional right to use their facilities in a way that is consistent with their beliefs."

Meanwhile, the parties in the dispute are awaiting a ruling from the 3rd U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals on whether the issue should be decided in the division on civil rights or in federal courts. A lower federal court has ruled that the state could consider the case.

The dispute has become a rallying point for both sides in the political battle over gay unions.

Supporters of gay rights say the discrimination shows that New Jersey's two-year-old civil unions law falls short of its intent to give gay couples the same legal rights as heterosexual married couples.

Earlier this month, a state commission headed by J. Frank Vespa-Papaleo, the director of the Division on Civil Rights and the author of Monday's ruling, recommended that the state allow gay couples full marriage rights.

Opponents of gay marriage cite the case as a prime example of their contention that by recognizing same-sex couples, states are interfering with religious freedoms.

"It's something we have to be careful about," said the Alliance Defense Fund's Raum. "As the rights of same-sex couples increase, the tendency is to have it conflict with the First Amendment rights of religious organizations."

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Single men turning to surrogates

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Fitz at Opine Editorials wrote an interesting commentary on this article from CNN. An excerpt:

It’s the inexorable pull of logical that is both cause & effect of neutering marriage. Gay or straight, inside a same sex “marriage” or without. Its danger is one that is perhaps the greatest danger represented by same-sexes “marriage” and “trends” like these. That is treating the natural gifts of marriage (children) as a consumer good. To treat people as objects that are a function of adult desire rather than the fruits of male female marriage. In this way children become consumer disposables, the property of individuals and not distinct persons with inherent dignity of their own. Party of that dignity is known & to be known by ones own Mother & Father. To be born into a marriage within the natural cocoon that is the incubator of childbearing and rearing and contains the proper connections to ones lineage & heredity.

Single men turning to surrogates

By Ronni Berke, CNN Senior Producer

NEW YORK (CNN) -- Jeff Walker says from as far back as he can remember, he always wanted to be a father.

Jeff Walker, with his two daughters, tried to adopt, but ultimately turned to surogacy to build a family.

"It was always something I knew, from the time I was a child." Just like his 3-year-old daughter, Elizabeth, who says she wants to be a mommy someday, Jeff says, "I knew I wanted to be a daddy."

Walker, a Manhattan music executive, says he and his partner had talked about adopting a baby years ago. But after three emotionally draining, failed attempts at adoption, they decided to turn to surrogacy. They contacted Circle Surrogacy, a Boston agency that specializes in gay clients. Their child was conceived with a donor egg, and then the embryo implanted in the surrogate, or carrier.

After Elizabeth was born, Walker and his partner separated. He then made a critical decision -- to become a dad again, single, and by choice.

"I realized my family, my two-dad family was going to look different than I thought it was going to look," he said. Without a partner, he would face even steeper challenges raising Elizabeth and a sibling alone. Walker says he gave the decision a lot of thought.

"That was the only part that was really controversial, because I do think there are a lot of challenges that single parents face, but at the same time I felt I was capable of handling those challenges," he said.

His second daughter, Alexandra, was born two years ago to the same surrogate, implanted with an egg from a different donor.

Walker, 45, is one of a growing number of single men -- both gay and straight -- who are opting to become fathers alone, with the help of gestational surrogacy.

Surrogacy experts say because the practice is not regulated, many surrogacy arrangements are handled privately by individuals. Precise figures are hard to come by, but experts say there's no doubt the United States is experiencing a surrogacy baby boom.

Celebrities like Ricky Martin and Clay Aiken announced this year they had had babies with the help of surrogates and the the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology, representing scores of reproductive clinics, reports that the number of gestational surrogate births in the country quadrupled between 1996 and 2006.  Watch more on the surrogacy boom »

Surrogacy experts say gestational surrogacy has increased steadily since the advent of in vitro fertilization in the early 1980s, because it provides an extra layer of emotional and legal protection for the client. The egg donor usually does not even know the client, and unlike the legally contentious "Baby M" case from the 1980s, the surrogate is not giving birth to her genetic child.

"It rises as an issue far less frequently with gestational surrogacy, because women never see it as their child to begin with," said John Weltman, president of Circle Surrogacy.

His agency, which expects more than 70 babies to be born in 2009, has seen a 50 percent growth in the number of single male clients over the past year.

Walker and other men are willing to pay well over $100,000 to have a baby through surrogacy -- the final cost depending on the number of IVF treatments necessary and how much is paid by insurance.

Circle is not the only major surrogacy provider experiencing a single-dad surge. At Growing Generations, a Los Angeles, California, agency that facilitates about 100 births a year, the number of single men seeking surrogates has doubled in the past three years, spokeswoman Erica Bowers said.

Although most of their single male clients are gay, surrogacy providers say a smaller but growing number are straight. Steven Harris, a New York malpractice and personal-injury attorney, says he gave up trying to get married when he realized his primary motive was to start a family.

Harris, 54, says he knew he made the right decision after 21-month old Ben was born.

"I thought getting married was the only way to go, because I did want a family. But having Ben, I feel complete now," Harris says.

Original Article

Monday, December 29, 2008

AZ Bar Association| 'Licensing' morality out of the law

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'Licensing' morality out of the law

by Charlie Butts - One News Now

Could lawyers be thrown out of the profession based on their religious conviction against homosexuality?

The State Bar of Arizona is considering whether to require new attorneys to swear they will not let their views on sexual orientation get in the way of providing legal services. Mat Staver, founder of Liberty Counsel and dean of Liberty University's Law School, is concerned.

"I believe that this is a major threat to the practice of law," he contends. "This is an attempt to literally license those out of business and to revoke the license of those who, in fact, have traditional moral values."

Staver believes the campaign is going nationwide and will be a tool used by homosexuals to hold back Christian lawyers. "If they then can hold over your head the license and the ability to practice law, that will be a devastating blow to those of us who believe in traditional family values," he points out.

According to Staver, this is an issue that lawyers and law school students cannot ignore. "It's a ticking time bomb," he concludes. "It is a land mine just waiting for someone to step on them."

The Arizona Bar plans to make a decision in January.

Original Article OneNewsNow

Beetle Blogger has a good article here

Saturday, December 27, 2008

Pope's Christmas Message| Protect the Human Being against Self-Destruction

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Secular Heretic put together a good article-summary of the Pope's message and the backlash:
Pope's Christmas Greeting Says We Must "Protect the Human Being against Self-Destruction" of Sexual Aberration
     During his exchange of Christmas greetings with the Roman Curia on the 22nd of December Pope Benedict XVI suggested that the gender ideology which seeks to redefine the sexes to allow for homosexuality, transgenderism and such things are examples of mankind separating himself "from creation and the Creator."

     The pope noted that the Church "cannot and should not limit herself to transmitting just the message of salvation to her faithful." It must also he said "protect the human being against self-destruction" - a destruction which comes from a warped understanding of marriage and human sexuality. "It is necessary to have something like an ecology of the human being, understood in the proper manner," said the Pope. "It is not a surpassed metaphysics when Church speaks of the nature of the human being as man and woman, and demands that this order of creation be respected."

     Quoting great theologians of the past, the Pope called marriage "between one man and one woman for life" the "sacrament of creation" and urged his listeners to reread the Encyclical Humanae Vitae. It was the intention of its author Pope Paul VI, he said, to defend against treating sexual love as a commodity.
(Original article Lifesitenews)

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The Pope Had the Guts to Say We Need to Save Ourselves from Self-Destructive Sexual Lifestyles

     Pope Benedict XVI is being ridiculed for daring to say that the harm caused by going against the Creator's plan for human sexuality is destructive and hurtful. In truth, he is being pilloried for having enough love to tell his brothers and sisters struggling with same-sex attraction, promiscuity, pornography, adultery and more, that their behavior is hurting them and society at large. It is hurting them physically, psychologically, but most importantly - hurting them spiritually.

     A San Fransisco Chronicle headline reads, "Pope Benedict at Christmas: Preaching bigotry disguised as compassion", and the Times of London opines: "Christmas was never meant to be about this". There are also examples of explicit hate mongering by gay activists against the Pope on YouTube.

     Interesting to note is the fact that nowhere in the Pope's remark did he even use the word 'homosexual' or 'homosexuality', rather he referred to 'gender' and to the Creator's plan for human sexuality as being in life-long marriage between one man and one woman. (Original article lifesitenews)

Friday, December 26, 2008

Are Families Measured in Family Units?

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Are Families Measured in Family Units?    

By Euripedes at Self Evident Truths

     The institutions of marriage and families are under attack. This has been going on in front of our backs for some time now. The recent votes and protests over the definition of marriage exemplify the continued debasement of these institutions. The idea of gay marriage is merely another step in the attack on marriage and families. The idea of gay marriage may, however, portend the end of the institution of marriage and the death of the family. It certainly didn't start their destruction.

     I've been looking at and thinking about the arguments surrounding marriage amendments for many months now. One of the arguments I frequently encountered by those in favor of gay marriage was: "How does what two individuals do in he privacy of their own home affect you?" While it may not effect me personally, and most probably wouldn't, it does effect the institution of marriage, which in turn effects the institution of the family.

     The idea of gay marriage doesn't seem to damage traditional marriage if marriage were a private matter instead of a public institution. But long before the discussion of gay marriage, much of the damage to the institution has already been done. Consider the myriad other attacks on the institutions of marriage and of the family: rampant divorce (including "no fault" divorce where couples can stop being married just because they don't want to be); the de facto acceptance of abortion as a legitimate means of birth control; the woman's right to choose (to kill an unwanted child); the decriminalization and acceptance of gay sex; rampant pornography; increased child neglect and abuse; increased spouse abuse; the increase and general acceptance of single parent families; the increased welfare state "helping" single mothers stay single and living in poverty; the lack of responsibility of fathers to financially support the family; unfair divorce settlement practices; child custody battles where parents use their children as weapons against each other; the rise in teen pregnancies; a general rise and acceptance of sexual promiscuity outside of marriage; the acceptance of living together as an alternative to marriage; the general disdain of marriage as expressed in popular culture; and the list goes on.

     Which brings us to the term "family unit" instead of family. The term was coined not too long ago to express the myriad ways families are now defined, including every combination of people, but rarely meaning a family with a mother, father and children. We've come to accept the term "family unit" because we as a nation have so successfully fractured the core family that we no longer see any other form of the family as unusual. I even hear the term over the pulpit in church.

     A case in point is the fairly innocuous Disney movie Lilo and Stitch. Lilo is an orphan girl, raised by her sister. Along comes Stitch, a cute space alien designed as a weapon to wreck havoc on civilization. The two get together, both learn to "behave" so to speak, but the gist of the movie is that, by the mere fact that Lilo and Stitch care for each other and accept each other they become family. Well, a family unit at least. (Now I am not knocking the movie, it is one of my favorites and is quite funny. I use it here to show how generally accepted the idea of the family unit is in our society.)

    What's happened here is that the institution of marriage and the institution of the family has been redefined from a public to a private concern. As a private concern, it no longer holds the importance or the "sanctity" of public value. As a private concern, anyone can claim anything they want to as a marriage or family because that is a "private" matter, not subject to government or societal interference.

The Problems
     The problem arises because marriage and family as private concerns could eventually have no public relationship. (Well, except for being reduced to an economic value in tax breaks and access to health care.) Without public constraints, the institutions become meaningless. Children, who used to enjoy the protection of the institution of a family, more and more are raised by a family unit and more often by a single parent.

      The other problem is the propagation of a culture with no regard for the institutions of marriage and family. Children raised with divorced parents come to view divorce as a normal and regular part of marriage. Children whose mother is single and working to eke out a living grow up at the edge of poverty, often raised by surrogate parents in day care centers. Children are exposed to pornography or sexual relationships far too early in their developmental period. Children of gay couples grow up with the understanding that "anything goes" in a relationship, even if the actions were once deemed illegal. Many grow up without the basic moral backgrounds of religion, since, for example, Christianity is antithetical to the degradation of marriage and families.

      If this is the current state of the family and marriage, then what possible further harm can come to it by legalizing gay marriage? Frankly, I don't know what else could come along that already hasn't destroyed the institution.

The Solution?
     So what's the solution? Holding ground on an ever increasing slippery slope in favor of the institutions of marriage and family. Passing constitutional amendments defining marriage in every state or on the federal level. Getting rid of no fault divorces. Realizing that pornography is not a free speech issue and making it illegal. And on and on and on.

     We've already lost a lot of ground on the institutions of marriage and family. Does gay marriage signal the death knell?

Original post here

Thursday, December 25, 2008

Merry Christmas


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Angels rejoiced in his birth. Shepherds came. Wise men followed a new star.


For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace. --Isaiah 9:6


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The baby Jesus was raised on earth by married parents--Mary his mother and Joseph his adopted father.


All children born on Earth deserve this same blessed situation.


A married mom and dad who love them.


Merry Christmas.

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Abortion| Fight the FOCA


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As Christians around the world begin celebrations for the birth of Christ, please remember that all unborn children deserve the gift of life.

Whatever your religion or your opinion on women's rights, educate yourself about the Freedom of Choice Act (FOCA) and its affects on abortion in the U.S.

The Fight FOCA Petition

by United Families International

FOCA would eradicate state and federal laws that the majority of Americans support, such as:

  • Bans on Partial Birth Abortion

  • Requirements that women be given information about the risks of getting an abortion

  • Only licensed physicians can perform abortions

  • Parents must be informed and give consent to their minor daughter’s abortion

FOCA would erase these laws and prevent states from enacting similar protective measures in the future.

California Senator Barbara Boxer introduced The Freedom of Choice Act (FOCA) in 2004. To date, the Bill has not been signed in to law but if passed, it would override every piece of Pro-Life legislation that has been made on a local, state, or national level. Sen. Boxer herself said that this radical Pro-Abortion legislation would ”supercede any law, regulation or local ordinance that impinges on a woman’s right to choose.”

Last year Barack Obama told the now famously corrupt Pro-Abortion organization, Planned Parenthood, that the first thing he would do as president of the United States is sign FOCA into law. As the legislative and executive branches of the U.S. government are controlled by the party that traditionally supports abortion, FOCA may be close to becoming law.

As defenders of the unborn, we must do all we can to ensure that their rights are protected. The Pro-Life group, Americans United for Life has taken part in a project called FightFOCA.com. FightFOCA.com is a great resource for all Americans to educate themselves on FOCA and sign the Fight FOCA Petition. For 30 years, United Families International has been devoted to maintaining and strengthening the family as the fundamental unit of society. We have fought on all levels of government to support the sanctity of human life, including unborn children. We are happy to join with Americans United for Life and voice our opposition to abortion.

The Fight FOCA Petition:

I oppose the Freedom of Choice Act (FOCA), because:

  • FOCA is a radical attempt to enshrine abortion-on-demand into American law;

  • FOCA seeks to sweep aside existing, protective laws that I and the majority of Americans support;

  • FOCA will prevent states from enacting protective measures in the future.

The FightFOCA petition will be sent to key Members of Congress upon the re-introduction of the Freedom of Choice Act in the 111th Congress, and to President-Elect Obama.

CLICK HERE TO SIGN THE PETITION

Send emails to your state congressmen.

Email this post to any family or friends who might be interested in the information.

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Why Christmas Matters

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The sign above taken by Ann Althouse--see her post here (It's the same sign O'Reilly refers to in his commentary).

Kingfisher is not a regular viewer of Bill O'Reilly, but his recent essay on Christmas addresses some current issues with good insight. While some people during this season of light celebrate the birth of a God, and some celebrate a miracle of light and protection from a God, everyone--no matter their religion or non-religion--can celebrate peace and goodwill towards men. This shouldn't be a time for fighting.

Why Christmas Matters

by Bill O'Reilly

In 1870, President Grant signed a law making Christmas Day a federal holiday, a national day of celebration. Congress overwhelmingly voted to make that happen and Grant understood that this was not a trivial gesture. The nation remained deeply divided in the aftermath of the Civil War and the federal government was looking for ways to reunite the people. Since Christmas was loved by almost everyone, the national holiday became a symbol of healing and unity.

Now, America is divided again, this time over social behavior. Traditional Americans want to hold on to the beliefs and institutions that, they believe, have made the country great, while secular-progressives lobby for aggressive change—things like redefining marriage to include homosexuals and other redefinitions of tradition.

Thus, deep divisions are growing in America and, somewhat shockingly, Christmas is right in the middle of it.

A few years ago some retail companies ordered their employees not to say the words "Merry Christmas" because they might offend people who do not celebrate the national holiday. Of course, that was insane. These companies were marketing the gift-giving season that accompanies Christmas but were refusing to utter the word? Please.

After an exposition of this by me and some other media people, millions of Americans decided not to spend money in the offending quarters, and the banishment of Christmas quickly ceased. I guess money trumps offending people all day long.

This season there is another Christmas controversy, this one engineered by some atheists who want to display signs on public property if Christmas or Hanukkah symbols are present. So far, only Illinois, Wisconsin and Washington state have caved in to the atheists, but it is just a matter of time before the non-believers come to a state house near you.

The problem with the atheist displays in Washington and Wisconsin is that the message is hateful, an attack on religion rather than a positive message. In Madison, then-Governor Tommy Thompson allowed the anti-religious sign, but posted it far away from the Nativity scene and the Menorah.

But in Olympia, Governor Christine Gregoire, a secular-progressive politician, has allowed a sign in the capitol rotunda that says religion enslaves people, among other not-nice things, to be placed within a few feet of Jesus in the manger. And peace on earth to you, too, Governor.

Of course, Gregoire did not have to do that. The legal settlement in Washington clearly states that any holiday display must be appropriate and reflect the decorum of the state capitol building.

So, the atheist anti-religion sign could have easily been rejected as being inappropriate. If the non-believers want a seasonal display, make it a positive thing. Put a picture of Charles Darwin and Bill Maher up there with the words "These are our guys... happy Winter Solstice!"

But, no, the atheists have to attack the baby Jesus, Mary, Joseph, the Wise Men and whoever else dropped by the Bethlehem birthplace.

Atheists well understand that Christmas is the most visible display of religion in the world, and any diminishment of it is a good thing to militant secularists. But it is inconceivable that Ulysses S. Grant, believing he finally had a slam-dunk issue in which to unite a fractured country, could have foreseen the social civil war we have today.

Sadly, we are no longer one nation under God. But those of us who truly understand the spirit of Christmas, the simple message of good will toward all men, understand that Ulysses S. Grant was on to something. Christmas should be a time of peace and understanding. It's sad that we now have to defend that.

Original article here

Beetle Blogger did a post worth reading here